Are You Gonna Kiss Me Or Not?

I did it -- I finally sat down and wrote out the entire homecoming story! (I know you've been checking back repeatedly to see if it was posted!) It took numerous attempts and drafts, actually; how does one even begin to convey the emotions that accompany a military homecoming from Afghanistan? I've definitely struggled with it over the past week, but it's finally here. It's complete. And while I am quite certain that I will never forget the events of this day, I am still glad that the story is written out, to be enjoyed and relived for many years to come... :)

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When I woke up on December 18, I was literally shaking... like, heart-pounding, head-racing, outstretched-hand-incapable-of-being-stilled shaking. My sister and I attributed part of it to the fact that for some strange reason, our bedroom was freezing. The other part, however? Cue up the butterflies: Zacharie Jones was less than 14 hours away from landing in the United States, and despite the fact that I was not conscious enough to yet put in my contacts, my body was very well-aware of the significant events about to unfold.

Zero days. Zero days. Since May, I had watched that calendar count backwards from 218 and imagined what "0 days" would feel like. And now? It was here. It was happening.

Is this real life?

It was still a fairly normal Sunday: church & family lunch at Grandma's, followed by an afternoon spent finishing up my final paper for my final class of the semester. The only not-so-normal part about it, actually, was the steady stream of texts between me and Hipp, Zach's Marine Corps bff. I hadn't seen Hipp since the week before he deployed to Afghanistan back in March, and was excited about meeting up with him once I arrived in Jacksonville.

Hipp checked in throughout the day to see when I would be arriving, making sure I had a way to get onto base and offering to get food with me while we waited for Zach (as if I would be calm enough to actually eat anything...). If that wasn't enough, he then offered to take pictures of the grand reunion, and I almost lost it right then and there. I'm telling you: Marine Corps bffs are the absolute greatest.


Truth. It's NOT every day people come home from Afghanistan. But that day? December 18? The day the calendar hit "zero days until..."? There were a lot of people on their way home from Afghanistan, and in that moment, I remember feeling overwhelmed with gratefulness for the blessing of safety and protection and answered prayers.

I was also overwhelmed with excitement as I made the four hour drive to Jacksonville (not including stops to pee roughly every seven minutes), met up with Hipp, and began the (insanely long) wait in the Area 1 Gym.

The sign voted on by my lovely blog readers -- it was a hit! Thanks!

Hipp trying to steal my man. I was a little worried, but it didn't work (fortunately).

I arrived on base around 9:15PM and headed to the gym with Hipp at 10:30. The plane was scheduled to land in Cherry Point around that time, and we were told that it would take at least three to four hours from the time the plane landed to the time we saw our boys. Hundreds of patriotic balloons filled the place, as well as welcome home signs (mine was by far the best -- no worries) and friends & family members eager to greet their loved ones.


No homecoming blog post would be complete without the biggest shout out in the world to Adam Hipp, Zach's previously mentioned Marine Corps bff. As soon as Hipp and I met up on base, he said:
Hipp: You do realize that although the plane lands at 10:30PM, it will still take an hour for the bus to get from Cherry Point to Lejeune, and they have to unload all their gear...
Me: I know. It's going to be a longgg night. You don't have to sit with me the entire time or anything. I can wait by myself...
Hipp: Oh, no. I'm staying.
Truth be told, I am SO glad he did... I seriously don't know what I would have done without him! For weeks leading up to homecoming, I had debated bringing someone along with me for my own personal sanity. I didn't want to wait alone; I knew that would be miserable. However, I also knew that it would take a very particular person to put up with me for the entire night: someone who just got it. Someone who understood the Marine Corps and deployments and the emotions surrounding it all.

Someone like Hipp.

The more I think about it, the more I'm convinced that he's the only person who could have waited with me that night. He had just arrived home from Afghanistan three months prior, and whether he realized it or not, he knew exactly what to do. He knew when to engage in conversation and when to let me sit in silence. He knew to not make fun of me when I shrieked at yet another popping balloon. He knew that two and a half hours of waiting in the gym was more than enough to drive anyone crazy, and the best solution was going out to the car and singing country songs... obnoxiously loud and slightly off-key. He was almost as excited as I was to see Zach, and I'll never be able to thank him enough for waiting with me.

He hates pictures. This was the "pleaseee... just one to prove that you were here" shot.

Somewhere around 1:45AM, in the midst of busting out the "Dirt Road Anthem," I received a text... from Zach! (I had called Verizon earlier in the day and re-activated his phone, just in case.) I screamed and frantically opened it up...


...only to discover that Zach had texted me from his email account nearly 24 hours prior to let me know they had landed in Germany, and for whatever reason, the message was just now coming through. You have got to be kidding me! While quite the false alarm, it was incredibly funny, and only added to the excitement that was building. We continued waiting...


and waiting...



...and waiting! The temperature outside continued to drop (it ended up around 30 degrees before the night was over), but the anticipation rose with each passing minute.

We had another false alarm around 2:45AM: I went back inside the gym to use the restroom and a couple of guys came in wearing deserts (only Marines that just came back from a deployment would be wearing desert cammies; it's woodland season). I freaked out & called Hipp who was still in the car, he came rushing over, and... nothing happened. I still have no idea who the men were or why they felt the need to mess with my head like that, but (unbeknownst to us) we still had an hour and a half to go.

Finally, a little after 4:00AM, everyone began pouring out of the gym and lining the streets, eagerly waving flags and banners. Hipp noted that it looked exactly like a 4th of July parade :)



At 4:15AM, the 1st Battalion, 9th Marines began their march down the street. They were in rows of six or so, and my eyes frantically scanned the crowd, hoping to find Zach amongst the hundreds of men in uniform. Row by row, they passed, until I finally saw him: slightly tanner and somewhat more rugged than when he had left, and despite the fact that he was wearing that hideous USMC toboggan on his head, he was even cuter than I remembered :) Fortunately, he saw me at the exact moment I saw him. I grinned, he grinned, I screamed (apparently quite loudly, since numerous people, including his sergeant, made a comment about it later... whoops!) 218 days had come down to these final moments, and I used every last ounce of self-control to stay on the side of the street and watch him pass less than ten feet from where I was standing.

The rest of the Marines continued filing in, I continued screaming, and it seemed like an eternity before everyone stopped marching. I never heard anyone yell "dismissed," but the next thing I knew, people were running out into the street in a mad dash free-for-all.

I began moving in Zach's general direction, standing on my tiptoes with arms fully extended, holding the sign above my head as high as it would possibly go. It took a while; the Marines had continued marching well past the place Hipp and I were standing, but I soon saw Zach fighting his way through the swarm of people. The only thing I remember are excited shouts of "There she is!" from Zach's 1/9 buddies, as if Zach and I hadn't already locked eyes across the massive crowd and entered into our own little world well before they started yelling anything, making a beeline toward one another.

We continued maneuvering our way through the hundreds of people, until finally, finally, finally... there was nothing between us but five feet of pavement: just enough room for me to jump and wrap my arms & legs completely around Zach's body.

Sunday, December 19, 2011 - 4:17AM

And although the first couple of pictures didn't turn out like this intentionally, I love them. It's impossible to truly capture a moment like this in a photograph - the chaos, the emotions, the relief that accompanies that first embrace. But these pictures... they convey that moment in a way I could never describe. When I think back to 4:17AM, this is exactly how I remember it: so surreal, hazy, dreamlike. I don't remember anything or anyone around me. I don't remember how long we stood there. I don't remember sound, period. I just remember this:


And while I will forever cherish my artistically poetic photographs, I am also glad that the camera situation was resolved and I have these pictures to cherish forever as well:



After a fairly significant amount of time had passed, I remembered that Zach and I weren't actually the only two people on earth. In fact, there were lots of other people around, particularly another someone who had waited all night to welcome home his good friend...



...as well as other Marines who had promised me that they would look after Zach while they were deployed (and they did!)



Before I knew it, we were some of the last people standing in the street, talking and hugging and gushing over the chocolate that boyfriend brought me from Germany. I'm telling you... he's a keeper ;)



After retrieving seabags and other gear, the only thing left to do was the ceremonial removal of the yellow ribbon. The custom of girls tying a yellow ribbon around a tree to symbolize remembering and waiting for the one they love goes back for many centuries, but since I don't have a permanent residence with a tree to call my own, I opted for the antenna on my car. (Hey, it worked.) :) I tied the yellow ribbon on the day Zach deployed back in May, and now, seven months later, Zach got to take it off.


Oorah, Semper Fi, [insert every other moto military phrase here] - he's officially HOME!


We even ended up in the good ol' Franklin County newspaper :)


As the sun started to rise, I drove off base with one hand grasping the wheel and the other hand tucked into Zach's, and by the time we reached McDonald's to get the long-awaited sweet tea, he was completely passed out with his head on my shoulder... just like old times. It was perfect, and the emotions of the past year began to instantly melt away. It felt almost as if the past year didn't even happen - from the weeks spent training out in California all the way through the last few days on FOB Geronimo in Afghanistan.


Can you guess which smiles are forced & which are smiles are 100% genuine? :)

The entire deployment already seems like such a blur, and I have to keep reminding myself that it really did happen. This is real life :) Zacharie Jones completed his first tour of duty in Afghanistan - he made it! We made it, thanks to an incredible God who is faithful and sustained us every step of the way. I am so grateful for the safety and comfort He provided during the past year, as well as the love and support from all of my family & friends, especially you wonderful blog readers! You'll never know just how much your comments and encouragement has meant during the past year, and how truly thankful I am for your role in my life - in our lives.

And now, 17 deployment blog posts & nearly 30,000 words later, I suppose all that's left to say (in the quintessential Ty Pennington voice, obviously) is:


"Welcome home, 1st Battalion, 9th Marines. Welcome home."





Deployment: Week 30 & 31

Ladies & gentlemen, it is with great pleasure that I present to you: the FINAL (and insanely long) deployment update post!


31 weeks. 31 weeks have passed since I last saw Zach. 31 weeks ago, I drove him to Jacksonville & told him goodbye as he hopped on a plane to fly halfway around the world. And now, 31 weeks later, all his bags are packed & he's on a plane flying back :) (Well, a series of planes. Two plane rides down, two [much more longer ones] to go!)

It's crazy to think that after seven months of letters and packages and horrible phone connections and daily inbox photos...


...I woke up this morning to proof that Zacharie Jones is no longer in the middle of the hot Afghanistan desert :)



Quite the opposite, in fact -- he's still halfway around the world, but he's currently living it up in 14 degree weather & snow. Those Marines are all about some extremes.

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While I finish up with final exams (because unlike the rest of the country, Duke doesn't get out for Christmas break until Sunday night...), I have an epic playlist going on. Seriously. It's a shame that colleges only offer degrees in typical fields like chemistry & psychology & English, because I think a degree in "Quintessential Playlist Compilation" would be far more useful, right?

Yes, Toby Keith does have a song called "The Taliban Song." Yes, it's really funny.


I've already got the CDs loaded for my upcoming road trip to Camp Lejeune, and while I think I did a pretty good job of making the playlist, let me know if you think of any great songs that I missed :)

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Homecoming playlist, check. Homecoming poster/sign, almost check :)

Over 50 of you voted and helped choose the homecoming sign, & I've already taken the winning design to get printed at Kinko's. I told the guy what size I needed and he pulled up the file on the computer. After staring at it for a minute, he clearly realized what it was for & grinned really big. He then took the time to congratulate me repeatedly, ask me where Zach was deployed, how long he had been there, when he was coming home, etc. He said that he'd recently gotten engaged & couldn't imagine being apart from his fiancée for over seven months. It's nice to hear, especially since I had a conversation just ten minutes prior with another guy that went something like this:

T: How long has it been since you've seen Zach?
Me: He deployed in May, so a little over seven months.
T: Oh, so not that long. That's not bad at all!

It actually happens far more than you may think... It's all good, though. We'll just consider those people the co-workers in Taylor Swift's newest music video: "Ours" :) But seriously, go watch it. The whole video is about this girl living her day-to-day life surrounded by people who are absolutely clueless as to what she's going through... and then her love named Jones who is in the military comes home & they have a grand reunion. I'm not making this up. It's like T.Swift is stalking me, except I'm not that emo/depressed (gotta do my part to combat the mopey military significant other stereotype, thank you very much)... and I date a Marine, not a soldier :)


For real. Watch it.

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Everyone obviously has a lot of questions concerning what comes next, so I've made a mini-FAQ section with questions I've been asked numerous times over the past few weeks. Hope this clears everything up :)


Um, neither.

He's going straight to Camp Lejeune.
And he will go to work the day after he lands in the States.
And he will go to work again the day after that. And the day after that...


Just because he's "home" doesn't mean that he actually gets to go home.

He'll hopefully get a couple of days off for Christmas and another couple of days off for New Years'.
But his month of post-deployment leave won't be until much later in January/February.
There's lots of unpacking/organizing/work/demobilizing to be done.

(Such a tease, I know. "Hey, hug your best friend... and then say goodbye because he's staying here.")


Definitely the most reoccurring question throughout all of this...

No.

You enlist in the military for a period of time. Just like you go to college for a period of time.

It doesn't matter how many papers I write or exams I take -- if I'm not in the final semester of my senior year, I'm not about to graduate. Likewise, it doesn't matter how many months Zach has been deployed overseas -- if he's not in the final months of his enlistment, he's not about to get out of the Marine Corps.

I'm not really sure how else to explain this, but it is absolutely baffling to some people.


Zach has one more year left in his four year enlistment. Technically, his End of Active Service is January 5, 2013, but he'll have paid leave dates stored up, so he should be all done by this time next year :)


The same stuff he did for two and a half years before he deployed?
(Working in the armory)
There's a lot more to the military besides deployments...


No. He only has a year left, and there's essentially no possible way they could get back, go on leave, receive orders, begin work-ups & training, deploy, and return again in that amount of time.


I mean, I wasn't answering the previous question just to make myself feel better -- it's actually the truth. But feel free to mutter something about "you never know with the military" and continue on your merry way. You probably know way more about all of this than I do...

:)


All of the troops are supposed to be home by Christmas... from Iraq.
Zach's return from Afghanistan has absolutely nothing to do with that :)
It just happens to be where the timing fell:
He left in May... for a 7 month deployment...
You do the math :)

There are still troops in Afghanistan.
There are troops that just left to go to Afghanistan.
There are troops that will be in Afghanistan for all of next year.
While it's nice that Zach is coming home & it's great that the troops are pulling out of Iraq, things in Afghanistan aren't over.


If you understand that the end of the deployment does not mean the end of an enlistment in the military AND you understand that Zach's homecoming has nothing to do with the end of the war in Iraq, please take a moment and give yourself a pat on the back, you well-educated American citizen, you :)

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Since this is my LAST biweekly deployment update, I decided it was okay to make it a little longer than normal. (You're welcome.) I'll conclude with an excerpt from another Q&A session I had recently... during my last phone call with Zach!

Me: What's the first thing you're gonna do once you're back in the States?
Zach: Hug you.
Me: That's actually not what I was going for...
Zach: Nope, that's my final answer. Next question.

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Me: Okay, what's the first thing you're going to EAT once you're back in the States?
Zach: A steak from Chili's. (pause) Or maybe sushi. You've talked about sushi SO much while I've been deployed. I kinda want some now.
Me: Haha, and what do you want to drink?
Zach: Sweet tea from McDonald's.

(Ironically enough, I asked my parents to greet me at the airport with a McDonald's sweet tea when I came home from Costa Rica...)

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Me: What do you think will be the weirdest thing about being back in the USA?
Zach: Not having to keep up with my rifle. I'm definitely going to feel weird without it for the first few days. Oh, and driving. I haven't driven a car in seven months... Goodness, everything will be a little weird. Like being able to use a normal bathroom. Don't get me wrong, we could've been way worse off out here. But a normal bathroom will be nice. Being able to eat whatever food I want instead of just what food they give us will be nice, too.

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Me: What do you think you'll take away from all of this?
Zach: I definitely appreciate the little things more. Seriously. Once I get back, if I need to shave, I can just go to the store and buy a razor and shaving cream. Or anything, for that matter. I can get in my car and go get anything I need. I can go out and get whatever food I want to eat. And I can pick up a phone and call or text you whenever. You don't think about these things, but after having all the little things taken away for a while, I certainly won't take them for granted in the future.

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Me: Any other grand reflections about your time in Afghanistan?
Zach: Yeah. Beth, I know our country isn't perfect. I know our politics might not be the best at times. But after living out here and seeing the lives of these citizens... we're really blessed, you know? A lot of people don't realize how well off we are.

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Zach has lots of other reflections about his time in Afghanistan, but he mostly wanted to send a huge "thank you" to anyone and everyone who sent letters/cards/packages/etc. throughout the deployment. And I second that! Y'all are the best -- your encouraging comments & never-ending support means more to both of us than we could ever express. I've said it before, but we've been so blessed in sharing this deployment story with each of you, and we hope that it has somehow been a blessing to you in return.


Whew, if you've managed to make it this far, congrats!


And now... I suppose seven months of deployment posts come to an end. It's a shame, really, because I have finally perfected adding or subtracting 8.5 or 9.5 hours (depending on if we're on Daylight Savings Time -- and who knew half hour time zones existed??) to swap between the time here & the time there.

Here, it's currently Friday, December 16 at 9:40 PM. Which means in Afghanistan, it's Saturday, December 17 at 7:10AM. Except Zach isn't Afghanistan anymore, so we're now dealing with an 11-hour difference, which would make it 8:40AM...

See how complicated that can get?


Stay tuned -- we'll both be in the same time zone during my next post: the long-awaited homecoming! Oorah :)




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We've Only Just Begun


Obviously, I had every intention of posting this yesterday (December 14 - the actual day of my parents' anniversary). But for starters, I was in Winston for the day, and my internet connection at home won't even let me think about blogging. Then there's the fact that even if nobody else in the house came within fifteen feet of any computer long enough for the internet to cooperate with my laptop... it's my parents' 25th wedding anniversary. I mean seriously, how does one begin to put into words the legacy and impact of 25 years of love & marriage?

We'll just let the pictures speak for themselves.



My sisters and I spent the past month planning their party, complete with a Google Doc & a plethora of phone calls/texts/emails/inbox messages (we are officially pros at long-distance party planning) :) We had the party over the weekend in our church's fellowship hall - the same church fellowship hall where my dad asked my mom on their first date back in 1982 & the same church fellowship hall where my parents had their wedding reception nearly five years later. Presh, we know <3

In addition to being a college student, my sister has spent the past year+ working for a catering business in High Point. Let me tell you - sister is impressive.


So domesticated.

On a side note, my dad just examined a paracord bracelet I made & told me how impressed he was -- he never thought I would be the "domestic" type. Mom chimed in and told him that making bracelets does not qualify me as "domestic," just "crafty." I found this conversation entirely amusing. It's true; I have no desire to cook or bake anything, ever. My contribution to the food table at the party was the pre-packaged 25th anniversary mints.

Moving on.


While sister dominated the kitchen, I hung streamers & balloons & twinkly lights...


And made banners...



and arranged a table of "mementos for everyone to look at" like a boss :)


1. mom's bridal portrait
2. a booklet of anniversary cards I collected over the past month from family & friends
3. my parents' wedding photo album
4. the book I made my parents for their 24th anniversary
5. a music box that plays "We've Only Just Begun" (song played at their wedding)
6. mom & dad's wedding cake topper
7. the Willow Tree anniversary figurine my grandparents gave my parents
8. wedding picture that has been displayed on our mantel for the past 25 years
9. a poinsettia - the flowers at my parents' wedding

I had never seen the cake topper until this weekend. Neither of my parents are gingers, but according to mom, "it was cute."

Please take a closer look at the image on the right: it's a paperweight that sat on my mom's desk in high school/college. I've already claimed it.

The ornament my grandparents (who have been married for 55 years) gave my parents

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And finally, after a month of planning, 75+ people came out to help us celebrate :)


...and we spent the afternoon surrounded by family & friends & neighbors who have known my parents since they were teenagers (and who were actually the first to know that they were dating!)



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As another side note, I thoroughly enjoyed going through old pictures for the grand occasion. I'd also like to point out that sometimes I remind my parents about how I'm already older than both of them were when they got married:


Mom was 20, although she undoubtedly looks 12...

Needless to say, that doesn't go over well :)

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Happy 25th anniversary, Mom & Dad!
Thank you for the incredible example of a godly marriage you've shared with everyone over the years.
I love you <3



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